Excellent Congressional briefing on May 25, 2016

The Science of Trauma Congressional Briefing, sponsored by U. S. Senator Heidi Heitkamp.


The Science of Trauma Congressional Briefing

Dear Mom, I'm so Sorry You Grew Up Living With Domestic Violence
By Brian F. Martin

Founder of CDV.ORG & author of the New York Times Bestseller INVINCIBLE: The 10 Lies You Learn Growing Up With Domestic Violence & the Truths to Set You Free

Dear Mom, I'm so Sorry You Grew Up Living With Domestic Violence 


A card for Mother's Day takes time to pick out. For a person who grew up living with domestic violence, it takes even longer. There is so much they want to say, but Hallmark hasn't quite captured the language.

If I were to write one, I would probably start out with, "On this Mother's Day, I want to tell you something that I never told you. 'I'm so sorry that you grew up living with domestic violence.'"

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Documentary: "What Doesn't Kill Me"

If you are a protective mother in the United Kingdom and would like to be filmed for What Doesn't Kill Me, a documentary about custody and domestic violence, please contact Rachel Meyrick at Whatdoesntkillme@icloud.com

Film trailer for "What doesn't kill me" a documentary

Why Self-Compassion Works Better Than Self-Esteem

Here are some ways to comfort yourself, and teach your children to do the same, even in the midst of this terrible war against mothers and children. 

Why Self-Compassion Works Better Than Self-Esteem

Boosting your ego won't make you feel better. Instead, try talking to yourself like you would your best friend.

By Olga Khazan 

May 6, 2016 

In 1986, California state assemblyman John Vasconcellos came up with what he believed could be "a vaccine for major social ills" like teen pregnancy and drug abuse: a special task-force to promote self-esteem among Californians. The effort folded three years later, and was widely considered not to have accomplished much.

To Kristin Neff, a psychology professor at the University of Texas, that's not surprising. Though self-esteem continues to reverberate as a pop-psych cure-all, the quest for inflated egos, in her view, is misguided and largely pointless.

There's nothing wrong with being confident, to answer Demi Lovato's question. The trouble is how we try to achieve high self-regard. Often, it's by undermining others or comparing our achievements to those around us. That's not just unsustainable, Neff argues, it can also lead to narcissism or depressive bouts during hard times.

Neff proposes a better path: Self-compassion. In other words, treating yourself just like you would your best friends, even when they (you) screw up.

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